Our brains are wired to avoid threats and to react to perceived threats by Fight, Flight, or Freeze responses: fighting them, fleeing from them, or sometimes freezing from the shock. These threat responses are not limited just to physical danger and have been shown to occur in social and work settings as well. In this solo episode of the TalentGrow Show, Halelly explains the science behind these threat responses and shows you how to avoid triggering this kind of social threat response and get more rational, better quality, and less disruptive responses in all your work interactions. Take a listen, weigh in with your own opinion, and share with others!Read More
Workplace cultures vary greatly in terms of how strict or loose they are. Ideally, where a given workplace falls on this spectrum reflects the values and necessities of that business or organization. This raises a crucial question for us as leaders: how do we determine what is just the right amount of tightness or looseness in our workplace cultures? Professor Michele Gelfand of the University of Maryland joins Halelly on this episode of The TalentGrow Show to discuss the high impact role of cultural norms in the workplace. Listen to find out what factors tend to determine tightness or looseness in both organizations and nations, how leaders can harness the power of cultural norms to promote a higher level of effectiveness in their workplaces, and how you can use an understanding of Michele’s ideas to help you become a better negotiator. Plus, discover how these ideas can translate usefully on an individual level as well! Be sure to tune in and share what you learn with others.Read More
Conflict resolution can be a difficult and even overwhelming topic for many leaders. How can we address conflict in a healthy, meaningful, and effective way? Kira Nurieli, a social-organizational psychologist and mediator, joins Halelly on this episode of The TalentGrow Show to share her unique and transformative approach to conflict resolution: Harmony Circles. Tune in to discover the biological and theoretical framework behind Harmony Circles, why they are so beneficial, and how to effectively facilitate them. According to Kira, Harmony Circles allow us to tap into the driving emotions that lie at the root of our workplace dynamics, so you’ll definitely want to learn about this powerful tool for building energized and successful teams. Plus, discover the benefits of Performance Evaluation Circles versus other more common methods of employee evaluation! Listen and don’t forget to share with others in your network.Read More
Did you know that a staggering 95% of leaders think that they are more influential than they actually are? This suggests a surprising lack of self-awareness among leaders in the workplace according to author and executive coach Stacey Hanke. So how do you slip into that 5% of leaders who aren’t deluded about their own level of influence? Stacey joins Halelly on this episode of The TalentGrow Show to share very actionable advice for escaping feedback-bubbles and ditching bad workplace habits that result from a lack of self-awareness. She also weighs in on the impact of our fast-changing technological world on human interactions and communication and discusses what we can do to effectively ‘stand out’ today and in the future. Plus, discover how Stacey ties in leadership and culture to parents and children, and what this compelling comparison means for leaders and managers! Listen and share this episode with others in your network.Read More
I’m sure you’ve been on the receiving end of this. The question is: are you dishing it out?
Listening in a distracted way during an important conversation. So-called “multitasking” when you really ought to be giving your full attention.
Science has shown us that we can’t actually multitask on executive function brain tasks, so let’s stop the charade and quit this nasty and increasingly common habit.
On today’s solo episode of the TalentGrow Show, Halelly will share a story from a recent workshop participant where this issue came up. Then she’ll explain why it’s not wise to do something else that requires your thinking bandwidth during critical conversations (the kind where there’s an important outcome and your relationship is on the line). Like reading or writing emails, for example. Even if others are doing it. Even if your senior leaders do it. Don’t. Take a listen now and share with those who could also benefit!Read More
You know you need to give a team member some hard-to-hear feedback, but you worry about the impact on the person’s self-esteem or maybe on your relationship. You don’t want your feedback conversation to backfire. What can you do to successfully deliver constructive feedback? Here’s another Ask Halelly episode of the TalentGrow Show, where Halelly Azulay answers a question from a listener, a member of the audience at one of her conference speaking events, a learner in one of her corporate workshops, or a member of the media. This is a common concern and rightly so. But Halelly has some important suggestions both about your approach and the steps to deliver the feedback that can allay your concerns and produce the results you seek. Take a listen, weigh in with your own opinion, and share with others!Read More
Everything you say, according to Mary Shores, is either creating a bigger connection or driving a disconnection. Words have the power to transform lives. Mary is an award-winning author, speaker, and entrepreneur who teaches step-by-step how to harness the power of our words to rewire our minds and create deeper connections with others. On this episode of The TalentGrow Show, Mary and Halelly dig into the three rules and three steps that make up her strategy called Words That Work. Along with lots of other juicy insights, you’ll learn which six trigger words you should just remove from your vocabulary and what to replace them with! Mary also talks about the Core Four process she developed to stay focused and productive in situations when your stress level threatens to get high, and how to use action statements to earn the trust of whomever you’re speaking with. Listen and don’t forget to share with others!Read More
Different personality types have different needs, motivations, and strengths. As leaders, how can we understand and adapt to the many different personality types on our team in a way that fulfills their motivations and draws out their strengths? In this episode of The TalentGrow Show, speaker, coach and human behavior specialist Nicole Jansen shares her answer to this question and invites us to better understand others through the DISC Model of Human Behavior. Nicole explains the key attributes you should attune to in order to understand others’ personalities, how you can effectively adapt to different personalities without losing yourself in the process, and what methods or frameworks you can use to better understand and connect with individuals on your team. Listen, share with others in your network, and use what you learn to improve your communication and effectiveness as a leader!Read More
It’s not just what we say as leaders: it’s how we say it, vocally and physically. An expert in body language, voice, and emotion, Dr. Louise Mahler explains that the ‘missing ingredient’ in corporate leadership is something called vocal intelligence and that how we use our voice has a far greater impact on our success as leaders than we know. In this fascinating episode of The TalentGrow Show, Louise shares unique insights on vocal psychology, body-language, and non-verbal communication that any leader should study and practice. Learn how to inspire trust with your voice and identify inner blockages that manifest in your voice and posture that may hinder your ability to lead. There are seven key blockages according to Louise, who walks us through a few of them here. Plus, learn why vocal intelligence is especially critical for leaders in our evolving digital age! Listen and don’t forget to share with others.Read More
Communication is hard! We all have relationships in which we communicate with ease, and others in which we feel like we’re “walking on eggshells” – always careful with our words, trying not to offend or create a defensive response. It’s natural to have different levels of communication chemistry with different personalities and there’s no way to fully level the playing field. Yet, it’s also possible to reduce the likelihood of defensiveness and to increase our success when we communicate with just about anyone, anywhere. In today’s solo episode on the TalentGrow Show, Halelly will share six principles that can help you communicate more effectively in any situation. Take a listen now and share with those who could also benefit!Read More
Storytelling is more than a fleeting marketing trend: it has been proven to be an incredibly effective motivator. Today, when motivation in the workplace is such a crucial topic, leaders need more than ever to cultivate the art and skill of storytelling. In this value-packed episode of The TalentGrow Show, Halelly has a conversation with Paul Smith, a leading expert in business storytelling, to get to the core of why narrative is so powerful and what elements make up a really good story. From research in neuroscience to the fascinating “Significant Objects Project,” Paul presents a compelling case for the value of storytelling in the business world. If what you hear resonates with you, keep listening to discover the components and structural elements of a good story, and the eight core questions every story you tell should answer. Plus, learn how to distinguish easily between manipulation and ethical persuasion. Listen and don’t forget to share with other leaders in your network!Read More
Negotiating with others to get what we want is an uncomfortable topic for many. The word itself can evoke the image of selfishly trying to profit at someone else’s expense. But real estate developer and upcoming author Rob Flitton wants to change our negative bias towards negotiation and encourage us to embrace self-interest and the idea of principled reciprocity. Redefining what is often meant by win-win and challenging us to feel ‘worthy of winning,’ Rob not only shares seven skills to upgrade our effectiveness as negotiators, but provides a moral framework to dispel the negative cultural attitudes that make us shy away from bold, self-interested, and effective negotiation. Listen to this episode of the TalentGrow Show and gain actionable skills and techniques!Read More
Have you ever had an emotional outburst during a really critical conversation? Or felt like you’re on the verge of losing control of your emotions?
When the stakes are high and you have a vested interest in the outcome of a conversation, it’s actually very common to become emotional. These kinds of conversations are especially difficult because they involve conflict or differing perspectives.
In today’s solo episode on the TalentGrow Show, Halelly teaches you how to develop greater self-awareness to catch your emotions when they first begin to arrive on the scene. Then, she shares four science-backed techniques for controlling your emotions during critical conversations and negotiations. Take a listen now and share with those who could also benefit from learning this important life and business skill!Read More
Storytelling isn’t just for marketers or creative types. It’s a dynamic tool that can be leveraged by leaders and professionals across the career spectrum. In this episode of The TalentGrow Show, author and international speaker Ryan Williams joins Halelly to talk about why leaders should learn to become storytellers and how you can start crafting and cultivating your stories today. Discover why strategic storytelling can make you a more effective leader and communicator, the three “anchor stories” you should have under your belt, and the best tips and techniques for improving your ability to captivate and influence others in conversation. Ryan also shares a gamut of interesting personal stories throughout the podcast so you can learn by example as well! Listen and don’t forget to share with current and aspiring leaders in your network.Read More
It’s time for another super short and highly informative Ask Halelly episode of the TalentGrow Show, where Halelly answers a question from a listener, a learner in one of her corporate workshops, a member of the audience at one of her conference speaking events, or a member of the media. This week’s question is: “What should I do if my senior manager is playing favorites with my team?” Halelly’s Answer: Of course, it depends on the context such as your relationship with the senior manager. In general, you need to advocate to protect your authority to influence decisions about your team more directly. But of course, beware of your blind-spots and approach the situation tentatively, with curiosity instead of accusatory judgment. Halelly even shares a personal story about a time when this happened to her. Get the deets by listening to the full episode (it’s only approx. 6 minutes long!) and be sure to submit your own question that might be featured on a future episode of Ask Halelly on the TalentGrow Show!Read More
As leaders, our success is directly tied to our ability to influence others. But where is the line drawn between influence and manipulation? How can you develop and use your influence to create win-win outcomes that will benefit everyone involved? In this episode of The TalentGrow Show, author and keynote speaker Bob Burg returns to the show to discuss the principles behind his newest book, The Go-Giver Influencer. Listen to discover the five secrets of genuine influence and how to prevent or diffuse the problems that can result from poor communication. You’ll also learn simple yet effective techniques you can use to regulate your emotions and boost your influence as a leader. Plus, find out why Bob believes that the best way to get what you want is by focusing on the interests of others! Don’t forget to share this episode with aspiring leaders in your network.Read More
If you have a tendency to say Yes too much (we discussed why you shouldn’t in episode 82), or have a hard time saying No to requests from your boss, co-workers, employees, clients, or even in your personal life, then this solo episode is for you.
Listen on to learn some of the typical reasons we are reluctant to say No, some totally legitimate reasons why you should be saying No, and how to do it in a way that protects your time, independence, integrity, and your relationships and trust using my 5A Formula for Saying No. Listen now and share with someone who could use this advice!Read More
Is the culture in your workplace conducive to sexual harassment? With the recent spotlight on sexual harassment in workplaces --well beyond Hollywood-- Halelly has invited leadership educators Dr. Larry Hiner and Lawrence Hiner to discuss why sexual harassment prevention training is failing and how to fix it. In this first two-guest episode of the TalentGrow Show, learn why sexual harassment prevention training can be improved, what every leader can learn from the #MeToo movement, and how to avoid creating or enabling a harassment culture in their own workplace and facilitate a culture of civility, respect, dignity, and trust instead. Listen now!Read More
Did you know that there is research being done today in the field of neuroscience that can greatly improve your leadership ability? In this fascinating episode of The TalentGrow Show, Halelly interviews neuroscientist Dan Radecki and they dig into some of the interesting correlations between our brain’s neurological makeup and the ways we respond to different daily situations and challenges as leaders. Learn about the Old Brain and the Higher Brain, how you can give your Higher Brain more control over your natural negativity bias, how stress affects your leadership ability, and the phenomenon of Emotional Contagion. Listen to find out how to leverage the latest findings in neuroscience to become a better leader and a better you, then share with others!Read More
“Should I ask first if it’s okay to give feedback, and what if they say ‘No’?” That’s the question I’m answering on this second-ever Ask Halelly episode of the TalentGrow Show podcast, and this time, it’s a voice-recorded question! Listen to my answer and the follow-up discussion that ensued via voicemail and email, and chime in via the comments in the shownotes – what do you think? Have you ever experienced this? And of course, don’t be shy and submit your own question that might be featured on a future episode of Ask Halelly on the TalentGrow Show!Read More